How to Stop Self Destructive Behaviors

Everyone out there. already engages in having, self-destructive behavior, in some point in their lives. Ether, it is intentional or not really Intentional. this behavior may lead up to having personal and even social consequences in your life. on the other hand, if you are moving past these self-destructive behaviors and then, living a happy life is completely possible with patience and a willingness to change. In this video, I am going to be showing you, how to stop self-destructive behaviors, now. let’s begin.

#1. | Thinking of Defining your tendencies, about yourself.

The first important thing. that you should always do, is to first identify your specific behaviors that you are engaging in. and that you are thinking of what that is destructive to you. before you even try to attempting to change your destructive behavior right away. in this case, having Self-destructive behaviors can actually be anything that harms your physical self or your psyche. In this way, by having to Compile a list of all of your self-defeating behaviors that you’d really like to change about that thing that you never even like.

• For example, any of the following will definitely qualify as having a self-destructive behavior: that have always and absolutely harm you for instance, (cutting and picking yourself, and also even hitting/punching yourself, really hard including scratching yourself, and pulling) your hair out compulsions. on the other hand, self-destructive behavior can lead to (gambling or overeating every time. or even, finding ways to have substance use, or looking for a girl or a boy to have risky sex with them, and always shopping every single day all the time), and always neglecting yourself and (never paying full attention to your needs at all, and including your health, as well as refusing help from others when they are trying to help you), and thoughts/behaviors that cause psychological harm (pessimism, being overly needy, denying responsibility, allowing others to treat you poorly). There are too many types of self-destructive behaviors to list them all here, so attempt to explore your life and behaviors for all tendencies that you have that harm you in some way.

• Do you drown your shame, remorse, and guilt by succumbing to substance use and abuse, such as alcohol or drug abuse, or nicotine use?

• Write down all of the specific self-destructive patterns that you have. You can keep a journal and list each one there.

• If you are unsure about what some of your patterns might be, ask family members or friends if they can point out any behaviors that they think you do that are potentially harmful.

#2. | Understand exactly why you are engaging in self-destructive behaviors, And Having to Determine the consequences of your behavior.

While researching evidence have been found that Some studies have suggested that many individuals may engage in self-injurious behaviors in order for them, to distract themselves from a painful thoughts or emotions that they are having in life.

• In this case, for each self-destructive behavior that you are having to written down, when you are done writing then, be sure to identify a reasons for why you are engaging in this behavior, that you are having. For Instance, there are many reasons you might drink alcohol to excess such as: wanting to fit in, feeling insecure, wanting to relax or reduce stress, and desiring to have fun. Think about how the behavior benefits you.

• You may want to Identify why each behavior that you have is so negative to you. For instance, if you ever find that your alcohol uses of always drinking is really destructive, to you then, be sure to identify the bad things, that have actually happened to you in the past when you are always drinking too much. This list might include: blacking out, feeling hungover, making bad decisions, hurting the people you love, and engaging in illegal activities. Write down how you feel after dealing with these consequences such as angry, sad, guilty, or shameful.

#3. | Track down your behaviors right away, And Accepting responsibilities in yourself.

Keeping a journal about yourself while you are engaging in self-destructive actions. In this case, by Identifying the event, as well as what you are saying in your mind, by your feelings, and even your behaviors, (whether you feel that it is self-destructive or not). Then you can Simply keep a log of any self-destructive behaviors that you are engaging in and then be sure to notice exactly what patterns of events, including your thoughts, and even your feelings whenever it emerges.

• For Instance, if you are addicted to smoking cigarettes then, in this case, it is one of your self-destructive, behaviors that you are always having this may include your list of positivity such as it can definitely help you to calm down and is relatively social, for you and for the negatives will be that it involves issues such as having high significant risks witch may damage your health, the addictive nature of cigarettes, the high cost of cigarettes, and medical costs.

• Identify the advantages of making a change. Based on your assessment of your self-destructive tendencies, identify the positives and negatives of changing each specific problem behavior. This will help you decide which behaviors are most important to prioritize. Sometimes others may blame other people instead of looking deeply at how they even try they best to contribute they self-destructive behaviors, in the first place. In this case, it can be completely difficult to even deal with having underlying pain due to having difficulty in childhood that they never like, or a difficult marriage where abuse patterns are prevalent, but we can take control of our own lives by addressing our emotional difficulties, helping ourselves, and overcoming our addictions.

#4. | Always identify when you are starting to have an unhelpful thinking pattern that destroys you.

A different thought pattern tends to be linked to how we are feeling and even our behaviors as well. as in this way, or in order words, our perceptions of ourselves and the world that is dictate on how we are feeling in life and act in what ether that is that we are doing. in this case, these ideas that we all have are central to having a Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), with our self in other words, having a type of treatment that is commonly used to treat self-destructive behaviors that you have is by.

• Writing down the ways that you are thinking about what you are actually associate yourself with each one of your self-destructive behaviors. By Asking questions about yourself, questions like “What do I think that is right before I do this? Or What thoughts influence and maintain this behavior? that bothers me” For instance, you feel that alcohol use is the problem, that you are having then, one might think, that “maybe I will just have one drink of alcohol. or. hmm, I really need this drink really bad. Or I deserve to drink. Nothing bad will really happen to me I will be just find.” By having this thought can actually encourage a person to consume alcohol write away.

• In this case, be sure to Acknowledge your negative thinking habits you are thinking about in person. Some of these thoughts might include: catastrophizing (thinking the worst will happen), over-generalizing (also known as black and white thinking, where one tends to think something is either all good or all bad), mind-reading (thinking you know what others are thinking), and predicting the future (thinking you know what will happen). For instance, if you believe that another person is thinking something bad about you, this could result in you feeling depressed or angry, which could trigger self-destructive behaviors. If you modify this thinking you can prevent the negative emotion and behavior.

#5. | Changing your self-destructive thoughts into positive thoughts.

Whenever we change our thoughts, then our feelings and even behaviors will change as well. In this way, once you feel like you have a complete list of the thoughts, that you are thinking about then, you can start to challenge these thoughts that on your mind when they come up in your mind.

• If you are dealing with something or someone that causing, you to get angry or sad by Keeping a thought diary if not a healthy way to go in this case you can. Identify the situation, and even feeling, by having a positive thought. And then, identify the ideas that support the thought, as you are thinking about it. alternatively, the ideas that do not support the thought pattern will make you unhappy or angry. by using this information to create a thought pattern that is more realistic witch will benefit you in so many ways. For instance, if you mother start to get angry after you and then, your mother start to yell at you, then you might have felt angry, at your mother, and then, you start to have thought, that “She’s the worst mother.” Ideas that support this thought might be: she yells, and she doesn’t know how to communicate calmly. Ideas that refute this idea

• Might be: she tells me she loves me, she provides me with food and housing, she supports me, and so on. A more balanced perspective overall (in order to counteract the thought that she is the worst mother) could be, “My mother has her faults and she does yell sometimes, but I know that she is trying to help and that she loves me.” This thought may lead to less anger, and thus, a healthier behavior (instead of drinking alcohol or socially isolating).

#6. | Practice, over and over, again if you are not, getting it right.

Once that you are starting to identify your unhelpful thinking, and then make sure to develop alternative thoughts, about the situation you are in. as you are practicing to changing these thoughts that is always coming up. Then, be aware of any negative emotions that continue to pump up every time in your mind on the other hand, if you ever have (anger, or sadness, or you are starting to get stress out lately), then you can identify the thoughts that you are having in the moment.

• In this case, you can always refer back to your thought diary in other to assist you with the problems that you are having. In this way, by actively, changing the thoughts that you are having. And then, you start to think about, why “your mother, or father, is a terrible person. that doesn’t love you,” then you should consider the alternative thoughts by identifying your thoughts before you even repeat it to yourself over, and over again. then, in this case, you could consider telling yourself that “My mother, or Father, loves me but she, or he sometimes can Loses they temper really bad.”

• Log your progress and learn from mistakes. Continue to keep a diary of situations that could lead to self-destructive behaviors. If you identify negative thoughts, write down alternative thoughts that might produce a better outcome. If self-destructive behavior was used, identify an alternative. For example, if the situation was your mother yelling at you, you may have thought, “I can’t stand her. She doesn’t care about me,” followed by feelings of anger and resentment, followed by a behavior of locking yourself in your room and isolating from social contact for several days. Identify another way you could have thought and dealt with the situation. For instance, you could change the thought to, “I love her despite her weaknesses, and I know she cares about me even when she acts this way.” Try to think those thoughts the next time the situation occurs (your mother yells). Then, you may feel better and attempt to reconcile instead of engaging in a self-destructive behavior.

#7. | Finding the different link between emotions and behaviors, and then, making an interesting list of your coping skills in other for you to benefit your problems.

Having a Strong negative emotion such as having fear to words something or someone, or having an anxiety, and even anger can lead, to self-destructive behaviors.  Finding new ways of coping with these triggers is crucial to reducing self-destructive behaviors.

• It Is really important to understand how that you can cope with these triggers you are having about this (situations, that you are having emotions, and even your thoughts as well) towards self-destructive behaviors. Can actually addition to changing your specific thoughts, about you in person, in this case, you can also actively change your self-destructive behaviors right away, or you can also replace the negative thoughts with a new behavior pattern that will benefit you more effectively, that can help you cope with the problem.

• While you are Trying to communicate with your higher power, if you are believing in a power greater than, yourself. Sometimes, we need to talk about something to let go of it.

• Try new activities. Find alternatives to your self-destructive behaviors that don’t cause more harm than good. For example, you could try: writing, painting, coloring, sports, camping, hiking, walking, collecting things, helping others, or gardening.

#8. | Doing some serious introspection about yourself.

There are triggers that will precipitate your self-destructive patterns about the problem that you are having in general. By Using the activities in the previous step in to identify your thoughts, and even your feelings, while you are going through the situations that can trigger self-destructive tendencies. in this way, this will actually include not just your feelings, that you are thinking about but it will be a specific situation which seem to coincide with self-destructive behaviors as well.

• by journaling your problems. By even Keeping a page in other for you to devoted and even to solely to identifying your problem and then, tracking down your triggers to having self-destructive behaviors. For instance, some triggers of being addicted to always drinking alcohol might be: that my parents do yell at me, when I does feel stressed out or overwhelmed, lately when I hang out with friends who drink, and when I am home alone and feeling lonely.

• Actively avoid situations that trigger you. For instance, if you want to reduce your drinking, but you know that if you hang out with certain people that will try to pressure you to drink alcohol, avoid this situation altogether. Instead of putting yourself in a potentially risky situation where it may be difficult to say no, give an excuse or explain that you are in recovery.

#9. | Tolerating the emotion that you have.

Try to stop yourself from immediately escaping an emotion that you are having. By Focusing on a longer term of healing yourself instead, of instant gratification. Having to deal with Distress tolerance is all about learning to deal with emotions that is happening to you. stead of simply trying to avoid feeling them. Whenever, we are having emotions then, this is a natural part of life.

• While you are feeling a very strong negative emotion whether it is (being angry, despair, or even stress out, or I will say frustration), in this case, instead, of immediately trying to distract yourself with the problem that you are going through or even making yourself, feel much more better in some way, then you can say to yourself, “I am feeling _____, and this is a natural feeling for me to have. Although this is so uncomfortable, to me but it won’t kill me, at all and it will definitely pass.”

• In this case, your emotions that you are having can Cause you to give yourself, more valuable information about how to deal with the current situation that you are in. you can consider thinking about why you are starting to feel the emotions and what exactly it is telling you about your problem. For instance, if you are feeling very angry at your mother for yelling at you, identify why you are so angry. Is it because you are hurt by her words, because you think it is inappropriate, or perhaps because you are worried she might do something violent?

• Focus on how it feels in your body to feel that emotion. If you feel angry, do you feel tightness in your shoulders, does your body shake, do you clench your fists or teeth? Experience the emotion fully even though it is uncomfortable to do so. Thinking about exactly how it feels in your body can help to take away some of the power of the emotion. After all, feelings are just feelings.

• Use writing as therapy. Write down your thoughts and feelings that lead to self-destructive behaviors.

#10. | Avoid destroying your health and Take care of yourself, and then. finding healthy relationships with other people that like you for who you are.

Sometimes when we are stress out about something, or someone, then. in this case, some stress can cause us to engage in unhealthy behaviors. with yourself on the other hand, in order to cope with such behaviors, that is unhealthy, such as: always looking forward to eating junk food, and staying away from the gym or not exercising, any more. and then, staying up late and sleeping, less on your bed.

• In this way by Getting enough sleep. Most people require at least 8 hours of sleep per night to function optimally.

• Eat and drink healthfully. Avoid overindulging in snacks, sweets, or junk food.

• Exercise in order to cope with negative emotions such as stress and depression.

• Having to Engage in having an Insecure attachment in a relationship with someone that you like can actually cause you to have a higher degree of self-destructive behaviors. With yourself on the other hand, having to deal with having Social support is very important in other words it can correlate to recovery process of having self-destructive behaviors. by Identifying the secure of attachments you have with your family, or friends, and other relationships that you are having with others and then cultivating these connections.

• By even understanding the quality of interactions with your loved ones that you love more in person. While you are Spending some time with these individuals that is around you by: eating together, exercising, talking, walking, playing a game, or trying a new activity.

• If you have people in your life who are not supportive or who are abusive toward you, consider detaching or getting space from these individuals. You can start by creating boundaries and explaining to them that you will not tolerate certain behaviors such as yelling at you.

#11. | Get help if you are struggling with self-destructive behaviors really bad.

If you are starting to increase, yourself, by having to engage in self-harm behaviors then, this could definitely correlate with associating with having depression, and can also lead with you having anxiety, and even, aggressiveness. Furthermore, having to deal with self-destructive behaviors can also lead to sometimes having to be linked to a history of abuse or even self-trauma as well as substance use issues, with yourself. on the other hand, if you are struggling with those problem then be sure to Contact a psychologist or therapist right away.

• Dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) is a useful treatment for individuals who may have emotional dysregulation or anger, self-harm issues, suicidal thoughts, substance use (alcohol or other drugs), and relationship/interpersonal difficulties. DBT focuses on improving your mindfulness, interpersonal effectiveness, emotional regulation, and distress tolerance.

• Problem Solving Therapy (PST) helps individuals solve problems better (instead of using self-destructive behaviors) and learn useful coping skills.

• Cognitive Restructuring (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy-CBT) is about changing your maladaptive beliefs, which helps to reduce negative behaviors.

• Explore medication options. Consult a psychiatrist for additional information or to discuss psychotropic options.

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