“Be yourself” is quite possibly the most commonly used phrase in the history of individualist-based advice. Be yourself. It’s such a vague adage. In this way, What does it really mean, to be yourself? And is it really as easy as you think it is or sounds like? With the steps below, in this video, I am going to be showing, you How you can be yourself now let’s begin.
#1. | Finding yourself in what you do and define yourself on your terms.
Oscar Wilde once said with his usual wit: Be yourself; everyone else is already taken. As humorous as this might seem, it’s a basic summation of the truth he is saying Yet, you feel like you can’t be yourself if you don’t know, or understand, and you can not accept yourself first. It should be your primary goal to find this out.
Find having the time, to learn upon what you love to value and also take time to consider what makes up the essence of who you are. As part of this, contemplate of your life and choices you make. Also Try to think about what kinds of things you would or wouldn’t like to do, in life and act accordingly; finding out through trial and error helps more than you might think it does.
You can even take personality tests, but be careful to only take what you want from them so that you do not let such tests define you. Instead, ensure that the defining you do is based on your own terms and is something you feel absolutely comfortable with. You may feel self-conscious, but over time if you are around the right type of people for you, they will accept you for who you are.
#2. | You Do not have to be surprised if some of your values seem to conflict a bit.
If your values seem to conflict This is a natural result for you when taking on broad values from a variety of sources for example, or including culture, religion, mentors, inspiring people, educational sources, etc. What does matter is that you continue working through these conflicts to resolve what values feel most true to yourself.
And Just because your values seem to conflict to you that, doesn’t mean you necessarily have to abandon your conflict values or I can say them. Consider it all a part of a dynamic you. You cannot be shoved into any box or pegged. You have values for all different aspects of your life, so it’s natural they be different.
#3. | Avoid thinking about the past and not letting yourself grow from this sad moments.
When ever you are thinking about the past One of the most unhealthy approaches to being oneself is by making a decision about who you are is by defining a moment or period of time, after which you spend the rest of your life and time, trying to still be someone in the past rather than someone who, is still you but grows with the passing of each season and decade. What I am saying is Allow yourself this space to grow, up in a better way, to improve, and to become Wiser.
Also Allow yourself to forgive past errors and past behaviors you’re if on the other hand, you are not so proud of. Work or Job, on accepting mistakes and choices you’ve made; from the past they’re done and in the past. You had your reasons for them and the decision you made sense at the time, so instead of harnessing yourself to past mistakes, allow yourself to learn their lessons and continue to growing.
And also have a go by Looking for people around you who, proudly proclaim they are no different than they were the day they turned 16 or another higher age, also Do you think. these people seem flexible, easygoing, happy people? Often they are not. the reason, is it’s because they, are so busy insisting that nothing has changed for them ever, that they’re incapable of taking on new ideas, learning from others, or growing. Growth into every new age and stage of our lives is an essential part of being true to ourselves and to being emotionally healthy and whole.
#4. | Always look, for your own, strengths never stop.
By looking overtime, these may change and thus, so may your definition of yourself, but never let up in focusing and refocusing on them. They more than adequately balance out your flaws and are the principal reason for not comparing yourself to others what I am saying is.
Comparison leads to resentment in. A person filled with resentment cannot focus on the mantra of “being yourself” it’s because, they are too busy hankering after someone else Lifestyle, also
Comparison leads you to criticism of others. And A life filled with criticizing others stems from low self-esteem and a need to pull others off their perches that you’ve placed them on. Witch, is both ways, to lose friends and respect, for from others and it’s also a way of never being your true self the reason, is it’s because you’re envy-struck and spending too much time on admiring others for their characteristics and not on your own, self by being successful and by motivating yourself.
#5. | Stop, and Relax, it’s ok.
You don’t need, to worry about the worst that could happen, to you especially in a social situations your in. If I say what if you fall flat on your face? Or get spinach stuck in your teeth? Or accidentally head butt your date when leaning in for a kiss? you need to Learn to laugh at yourself both when it happens and afterward.
Turn it into a funny story that you can share with others also we are not perfect. In this way, I can say you can let them know that you’re not perfect people we all make mistakes and also makes you feel more at ease, too. It’s also an attractive quality for someone to be able to laugh at themselves and not take themselves too seriously!
If people make mean or insensitive judgments, don’t take it personally. That’s their loss, not yours.
#6. | Being honest, and open about your difficult, problems.
Whether you are having a big problem you don’t like then, What have you got to hide? We’re all imperfect, growing, and learning human beings. If on the other hand, you feel ashamed or insecure about any aspect of yourself and how you are feeling that you have to hide those parts of yourself, whether it is physically or emotional problems you don’t like, then you have to come to terms with that and learn, to convert your so-called, flaws into individualistic quirks or simply as basic, down-to-earth acknowledgments of your own imperfections.
Then you can Try that tactic, of owning up to your imperfections, mid-argument with someone you know. Then You will often discover that suddenly you’ve removed the very reason for stubbornly holding the line of argument with others, which is often about preserving face and not giving in. The moment you say for example, “Yeah, look, I get really irritable when the room’s in a mess too. And I acknowledge that I shouldn’t leave my clothes in a pile on the floor and yet I do it because that’s a lazy part of myself or I’m still trying to train out of the habit. I’m sorry. I know I could do better, and I will try,” you suddenly infuse an argument with genuine self-honesty that disarms the entire point of the argument.
#7. | You don’t need to compare yourself to other successful people, you love.
If in person, you’re always striving to be someone perfect, you’re not already, are in that way you’ll never be a happy person. Also This comes about through comparing yourself to other successful people and finding yourself wanting in certain ways. Also This can be a slippery slope to tread, where your thinking will only become more and more negative for you.
Also You can always see the appearances others wish to portray publicly however, you won’t ever see what’s really going on behind their facades in their apparently in they perfect world they are living in. And By comparing yourself to others, you are also giving their image-portrayal way too much power and reducing your own worth based on a mirage. Also It’s a useless activity that only brings harm into your lifestyle.
Instead, of valuing yourself, as the person you are, love your personality, and embrace your flaws; we all have them, and as explained earlier, being honest with yourself is much more better than running away from them.
#8. | Stop yourself, from caring about how people perceiving the way you are.
Some people will like you and some others will not like you at all. Either they attitude is as likely to be right or wrong to you. It’s next-to-impossible to be yourself no matter what anyone say and when you’re caught up in constantly wondering about the things people will say about you for example, “Do they think I’m funny? Or Does she think I’m really a fat person? Or Do they think I’m stupid or a dumb person? Am I good/clever/popular enough to be a part of their group of friends?” In other words, what I am saying to you is To be yourself, you’ve got to let go of these concerns and just let your behavior flow, with only your consideration of others as a filter — not anyone consideration of you.
For example, If you change yourself for one person or a group, of another person or groups that will never like you, and you could go on forever in a vicious cycle instead of trying to please people try to focusing on building up your talents and strengths and your self love up.
#9. | Stop pleasing everyone or being people-pleasers.
If you Always wanting and looking for everyone’s love and respect it is a totally pointless exercise for you in the end that can harm you are your personal development and your confidence. Like, Who cares what other people say? As Eleanor Roosevelt said once, no one can make you feel inferior without your consent and what matters most is that you listen to your own inner confidence and if it’s missing, that you start developing it!
Does this mean no one’s opinion in life matters? No not exactly. And That is not what I am saying. In this way It can hurts really bad if you’re socially rejected by others. And If you’re forced into a situation where you must spend most or all of your time among people who can’t stand you for reasons of their own way, then it’s dangerous to internalize their negative ideas of who you really are and the purpose of your life and lifestyle on What you can do is exercise some choice in whose opinions you value more than others. It’s much healthier to pay attention to people who genuinely mean you well and who agree with you about what you want to do with your life.
#10. | Surround yourself with positive people you like in life.
Don’t trivialize what you’re going through in life if you are facing on a negative, social pressure or someone bullying you. Also It’s easier to withstand it if you are aware, of it as pressure and build healthy defenses. Building up a circle of trusted friends and people who share your views and beliefs with in life it is a good way to help you to reduce the impact of hostile people that want to bring you down by hating on You. and also, you can tell yourself that, their opinions don’t matter, and they shouldn’t, but that’s a lot easier when there are others who agree with you and stand by you.
Also when you Compare those who love you to whoever the bully is; suddenly you can realize that their opinion of you, or your family or your lifestyle, is worthless. We inherently care about the opinions of those we respect and look up to. This works both ways; if someone has no respect for you, then what they say about you is just empty words coming from someone who is one step above being a total stranger.
#11. | Learn the difference between intimidating, sarcastic, or conniving comments and well-intended constructive criticism.
It will focus on real faults that you don’t know about, and could do with remedying. In the latter case, people such as parents, mentors, teachers, coaches, etc., might well be telling you things that you need to digest and mull over at your own pace, to make self-improvements for the better. The difference is that their critique of you is intended to be helpful.
These people care about you and are interested in how you grow as a person, and are Respectful. Learn how to spot the difference and you will live well, dismissing pointless negative critiques, and learning from the constructive critique.
#12. | Treat yourself like how you treat your own best friend.
If You love to value your friends or your best friends and those closes to you; as well, or I will say who is closer to you than you can Give yourself the same kind, or thoughtful, and respectful treatment that you give to other people you really care about. By thinking about it and you take action about your self for example, If you had to hang out with yourself for a day, or I can say what is the most fun/enjoyable/fulfilled/calm/contented type of person you could be, while still being yourself? What is the best version of you?
To Be responsible for yourself, and for Boosting your self–esteem. If others aren’t telling you you’re a great, great person then don’t let it get to you and your mind. Instead, tell yourself you’re special, wonderful, and worthwhile. When you believe these things about yourself, others will recognize that glow of self-confidence and begin confirming your self-affirmations in no time!
#13. | Develop yourself and express your individuality about you and do not be unfair to yourself.
By being yourself in a way that you love Whether it’s your sense of style, or even your manner of speaking clearly to someone, if on the other hand, is your preferred way of doing something strays from the mainstream and produces positive outcomes, then be proud of it. by Being proud of a character, you are and not the type.
Learn to communicate well – the better you can express yourself, the easier it is for the people who like you as you are to find you and the ones who don’t to just steer clear.
Sometimes by self, comparison causes us to compare the apples with pears. In that way for example, If I say We’d like to be a top movie producer in Hollywood when we’re a lowly, aspiring scriptwriter. To see that top producer’s lifestyle and find yourself wanting as a result is an unfair comparison – like for example, that person has years of experience and hobnobbing behind them, while you’re just starting out, testing the waters with writing skills that may one day prove to be exceptional.
What I am saying is you need to Be realistic in your comparisons and only look to other people as inspiration and as sources of motivation, not as a means to belittling yourself.
#14. | Following your own lifestyle, about what you like and Accept the better and not better days.
By being unique about your lifestyle is The common thing a lot of people do instead, of copying others’ actions because it seems like the better route to fit in, but really, shouldn’t you stand out? The answer is yes, By Standing out is very hard, yes, but you need to try to avoid assuming other people’s perspectives of you, even if it’s not something you would normally do; that’s is what being yourself is all about.
Whatever you are, accept it. Or Being different is absolutely beautiful and it attracts more people to you. Don’t let people change you!
When ever you are around some People they might even raise their eyebrows and even go as far as making fun of you when you feel like you’re truly being yourself about everything, but as long as you can shrug and say, “Hey, that’s just me,” and leave it at that, people will ultimately respect you for it, and you’ll respect yourself too. In that way, Most people struggle with being themselves; if you can do it, they might even admire you.
Also Sometimes it will hurt when you’re teased. While this can be very difficult, and far easier said than done, try your best to flick it off your shoulder. In the end, you’ll be a bigger and better person, know who you are, and better able to survive whatever obstacles arise in your future.
By being unique about your lifestyle is The common thing a lot of people do instead, of copying others’ actions because it seems like the better route to fit in, but really, shouldn’t you stand out? The answer is yes, By Standing out is very hard, yes, but you need to try to avoid assuming other people’s perspectives of you, even if it’s not something you would normally do; that’s is what being yourself is all about.
Whatever you are, accept it. Or Being different is absolutely beautiful and it attracts more people to you. Don’t let people change you!
When ever you are around some People they might even raise their eyebrows and even go as far as making fun of you when you feel like you’re truly being yourself about everything, but as long as you can shrug and say, “Hey, that’s just me,” and leave it at that, people will ultimately respect you for it, and you’ll respect yourself too. In that way, Most people struggle with being themselves; if you can do it, they might even admire you.
Also Sometimes it will hurt when you’re teased. While this can be very difficult, and far easier said than done, try your best to flick it off your shoulder. In the end, you’ll be a bigger and better person, know who you are, and better able to survive whatever obstacles arise in your future.
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