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#1. | Stay calm when you are dealing with a manipulator.
When you a are around a manipulator A manipulator may try to get a rise out of you or have you respond emotionally to them instead of rationally. When speaking with a manipulator, stay calm and in control. Don’t get swept up by the moment or taken advantage of because you are kind person with a sweet hart. Be sure to Take some deep breaths to help you feel more calm and more focus in your thinking and in your body.
For example, if you feel rushed in responding to the person, remember that you don’t have to answer right away. And stay calm and Take some moments to think it over so you don’t make a decision so quickly, even if they want you to do it. You always have the option to step away from the situation and delay decisions.
You can also try grounding techniques to help you stay rational while you’re feeling emotional. For example, choose a color and find it in the room, or concentrate on what you’re feeling in your body, such as tension in your leg muscles.
#2. | Say no firmly when you Truly mean it.
Stand up for yourself, and say No. Remember You have the right to say no and not feel guilty it. In this case You also have the right to put your own priorities first. Stand your ground when you say no. Make sure the person knows that once you say no, you actually mean it when ever you say it there’s no budging you.
For example, say, “I’m not available to you tonight” or, “I’m not willing to respond to that.”
If they push you, say, “I’ve already told you my decision and I will not change it. Please stop asking.”
#3. | Assert yourself and be heard to others.
Make sure you get a say in what happens when having a conversation and that, you make your voice heard by others when talking about, something or someone. However, If you need to say something, don’t let them interrupt you or talk all over you. Use “I” statements to communicate on how you feel and what you’re thinking. About, You should feel like you have the option to say no or share your opinion and still be respected for your decision.
For example, if they are trying to get you to agree with them, say, “I disagree” or “I’d like you to stop asking me now.”
#4. | Practice self-care when you are dealing with a manipulator.
It is wise to say, to you. Dealing with a manipulator, can be emotionally exhausting, to you, so make sure you’re taking care of yourself. For example If you’re feeling stressed out after an interaction you have or you feel drained from your exchanges, take some time to give to yourself. Practice deep breathing. to bring a sense of calm to your mind and body. If you’re feeling stressed, form the manipulator you can also, do some meditation or yoga. And Make, some time for fun so that you don’t let any negative feelings, you have about, it. to ruin your day.
Talk to a friend about the situation. Even if there’s nothing they can do to help, it can still be beneficial to talk it over and vent a bit.
Go for a walk in nature to clear your head.
#5. | Recognize signs of a manipulator when trying to manipulate you.
With in a, manipulator, mindset A manipulator intentionally creates an imbalance of power and exploits the victim for their own agenda. They may also, let you talk first when having a conversation to you, so that they can find holes in what you’re saying or twist your words. When talking to them, This person might lie or make obvious excuses to for their own behavior, particularly in other words, blaming you for ‘making’ them do something. A manipulative person will often be judgmental and critical of you. And They might make you feel guilty for something when they’re actually at fault it.
Manipulators may even share a few common characteristics:
They know on how to detect your weaknesses.
They may even use your very own, weaknesses against you.
Including They may often convince you to give up something of yourself in order to serve their self-centered interests.
Once a manipulator succeeds in taking advantage of you, they will likely repeat the violation until you put a stop to the exploitation. In that way what I am saying is
For example, the person might say, “Well, if you had made dinner for me, I wouldn’t be in a bad mood!”
The silent treatment is a common manipulative tactic for someone trying to get their way.
#6. | Being truthful When Talking about your interactions.
It is Especially if the manipulator is someone you talk to regularly on a regular basis or work with, it might even beneficial to talk about the behavior. Of someone that is manipulating, you whenever, you are Making it clear that you don’t like them treating you that way. You can also say what you’d like instead.
For example, if you’re on a project and the person is trying to manipulate you to get something from you, or you to do something their way, say, “I don’t like it when you talk to me that way. I’m capable of making a decision on my own.”
If the person is manipulating you to buy something for them, say, “It’s not acceptable to talk to me that way. You can make a request if you’d like, but guilting me into buying something won’t work.”
#7. | Ignore guilt trips when they are talking to. (You)
When you Recognize if the person is using guilt when talking to you as a way to control you or to get you to do something you don’t want to do. Try putting their statements back onto them for self-reflection what I am, saying is. in this way.
For example, the person may say, “You’re never there for me when I need you.” Simply say back, “That’s not true, and it makes me feel like you don’t appreciate me when I help you.” Point out their manipulation by showing that their statements are false.
#8. | Point out their inequality in reverse.
Some manipulative people tend to ask much of others and give little in return to others they know, like. If this sounds like someone you know, start by turning things around. Like Ask them if their request seems fair or if they would do something like that for someone else.
For example, say, “Does this seem reasonable to you?” or, “Are you asking me or telling me?”
#9. | Set firm limits when helping them.
By Being clear in your limits with the person. A manipulative person may try to push your boundaries to get exactly what they want. Don’t budge after you say no to them or when you agree (or disagree) to something. Stay firm by setting time limits and sticking to them, in your decision like
You don’t have to provide, an explanation or defense of your decision. There is no need to justify your wants.
For example, say, “I’m willing to help you for one hour, but I can’t help you for more time than that.”
#10. | Limit your interactions with them, when they talking to you.
Whenever, you are dealing with a manipulative person. It is wise to limit interaction with them in other words, If you know somebody who’s manipulative, it might be best to limit your time and conversations, with them. For example, Keep conversations, brief and don’t go into any controversial territory, with them. If they tend to gossip, or talk about other people, listen but don’t respond. Your words, might be used against you also if a manipulative person ask you or,
If a manipulative person asks your opinion about something you’re not comfortable sharing, don’t answer. Say, “I don’t know” or, “I’ll think about that.”
#11. | Disconnect from the person if they cause you more harm in your life then good.
If you feel like a manipulative person causes more harm to you in person than good in your life, it might be time to say goodbye. To them remember Friendships should be mutual, and if you feel like your relationship is not good, at all then, end it. You can either formally break up or fade out of their life.
If you formally break up, send an email or tell them face-to-face that you no longer want them in your life. Say, it is harming in that way “This isn’t good for me and I’d prefer it if we weren’t friends.”
It’s trickier if the person is a family member. You can choose to interact with them less and let them know you will practice firm boundaries.
If you’ve never learned to set good boundaries, then doing so can take some practice. Value yourself and your needs, and keep working to form healthy boundaries for yourself in other to make it in life.
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