Hey everyone and welcome to the Paths in life to day we going to learn How to stop lying to yourself now let’s begin.
1. | Never say to your self yes when you really mean to say no.
This is one of the biggest problems for many people when talking to they self about something or someone Who, feel obliged to say “yes” to others for all sorts of reasons. If those reasons aren’t being true to caring for your own needs and time resources, something is bordering you then it’s important to say “no” instead. Saying “Yess” when you don’t feel comfortable about doing something, you really don’t like at all you will, like everything else, take practice but you’ll soon learn that people prefer to know that you mean it and that you’re not going to let them down by saying yes but never doing it. While some people may seem offended by a “no” when you’d usually say yes to them, often this indicates more about their own need to use you, in which case it’s good for them to learn that you’re standing up for yourself.
2. | Identify your defense mechanisms When doing it.
When ever you are Using defensiveness, victimization, anger, intellectualizing or outrage as means to promote your point of view while ignoring all others is a form of self deception. When you get on your high horse, and claim, that others should adhere to your point of view, you are lying to yourself because your reactions are defense mechanisms, and disrespectful of the viewpoint of when talking to someone. In other words meaning to say. That is not the real you. The real you is the one whose passions, beliefs, values and preferences matter but should be vocalized and shown in constructive ways that help and nurture others, with out lying to them, and not treat them as targets to be won over to your point of view.
3. | Always Acknowledge when you’re scared to do it.
In this case, Lies are often something we tell when we want to protect ourselves. When bad things is happening to us The desire to protect is a response to something that you fear In a big way, In this way The more you acknowledge your fears, the less you’ll need to lie About it when dealing with something or someone. Whenever you find yourself rationalizing something, or your intuition triggers some introspection, ask yourself: “What am I scared might happen?”
4. | Make a conscious effort and notice a moment throughout the day when you’re trying to be someone else when you’re not.
In this way, While it’s great to learn from others and then copycat things that have worked for them, however, taking this too far and trying to be them will result in you losing your sense of self and trying to be someone you’re not. Similarly, what I am saying is try to contorting yourself to meet others’ expectations will erode your individuality, and break your spirit. Don’t do or say things just because another person does or expects you to; source the need to behave that way from within and if it’s not true to yourself, either don’t do it or tailor it completely to reflect your own self when being like them.
5. | Recognize when ever you are exaggerating your abilities, accomplishments and skills To words something your not.
When you feel These sorts of lies when you are lying to yourself it will eventually cause you confusion, frustration and loss when you overestimate what you’re capable of doing. For some people, this can lead to fulfillment of the “Peter Principle”, where you allow yourself to be promoted beyond your skills and levels and. set yet spend your time trying to vainly prove you’re capable. This can lead to burnout, a sense of failure and even a reduction in reputation as others discover you can’t keep up in the way you said you would. When doing so, Exaggeration of this sort doesn’t help you to get ahead and prevents you from being true to yourself In when you are not capable of doing so.
Learn to Be humble to others.
And Share your vulnerabilities with other people. This helps you to better connect with people who recognize the same vulnerabilities in themselves and it also shows them that you are authentic.
6. | Be aware when you are telling yourself that things are going to change but you do nothing to make this happen.
When we Say that you’d like things to be different is one thing. Action is another. Many people lie to themselves by wishing that they’d trained to win when playing sports or win the lottery, receive an inheritance, find the perfect job, or anything or etc., and then simply get on with all they can’t stand about their lives, passively waiting for… who knows what to happen. You’ll know this lie if you find yourself saying a lot: “If only.” If only won’t make changes for you; only your action and determination can do that.
7. | Acknowledge your tunnel vision of reality.
Everyone has it, to some extent. Realize that your truth is just that––your truth. Never ever lie to yourself by thinking that the way you see the world is the only way to see the world in the world you leave in, It’s this kind of narrow approach that gets people into endless arguments from which they won’t back down, when talking about it. And as they try to enforce their reality onto others, denying the reality of anyone else. When people see and think differently.
8. | Always tell yourself the truth every single day.
Telling your self the truth all the time will probably take practice but once you’re alert to the need to be more self-truthful, about the answers you’ll catch yourself when you lie to yourself and start stopping it from happening to you any time. Amazing things will happen as you are more truthful to yourself––you’ll trust yourself more, and you’ll feel your self worth increase with other people and you’ll understand your limitations and when to rely on others rather than trying to “do it all” on your own. And also You’ll be more inclined to get on with things instead of moping or falling into self-piteous moments, and you’ll have more energy because you’re not holding up a front, concealing your true nature or worrying about hiding your vulnerabilities. Ultimately, not lying to yourself is a way of giving others the gift of the real you, when ever you are being realistic when you are talking to them. on that they can rely.
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